Weddings:  Personalized, Memorable, Affordable!

(Created by The Institute for Social Intervention)

  • Decisions about who to marry and have children are likely to have more effect on future happiness than any other decisions in life, so they are worth considering as clear-minded as possible, given that we can be so easily misled in the first flush of love.
  • About half of the following questions derive from academic research findings about long-term success and failure in marriage and human relationships. If both you and your partner are trying this test, simply discuss your final marks together.    
  • Please give marks, 0 to 10, (10 = very true, down to 0 - not true at all) to the following questions.
  • Answer the questions as honestly as possible, since you do not have to show the results to anybody else - and there is nobody to deceive but yourself.

1)            There is very little conflict in our relationship.

2)          When there is conflict we handle it very satisfactorily.

3)           I find myself agreeing with my partner far more often than


4)           If my partner ended up developing a similar character to

               his/her parents, or became like them in old age, I would be
               very happy about this.

5)            I feel that I can share all my feelings, good and bad, with my

               partner and that he/she does the same with me.

6)           My partner is very similar to me in cultural, social, intellectual

              and economic background and probably in intelligence.

7)           We share similar philosophies of life or spiritual beliefs.

8)           We share the same sense of humor.

9)           My partner's health is good, I would describe him/her as

              basically a happy person and I don't think he/she is likely to
              suffer from depressions, obsession, anorexia, or other eating
              disorders, excessive anxieties or other mental health 

10)        My partner is sensitive and kind and not selfish or


11)        If I lived in a society where parents arranged marriages for
              their children, my partner is just the kind of person my
              parents might have chosen for me.

12)        We have a lot of conversational interests in common. I enjoy
             his/her conversation on a variety of topics and I like his/her

13)       Judging by track record to date, my partner is monogamous
            when in a serious relationship.

14)      We agree on the extent of freedom within marriage as regards
            other relationships and I, therefore, don't think jealousy will be
            a problem for either of us.

15)      Our intimate relationship is extremely good.

  • Add up your totals.
  • Take away 10 if you have lived together for less than 6 months.
  • Divide your total by the maximum possible (150).
  • Multiply by 100 for your Marriage Compatibility Percentage score.

        (Example: Your total is 120.
                    120 divided by 150 = 0.8.
                    100 x 0.8 = 80.)

PLEASE NOTE:     If you are less than 70% compatible, you may well have to struggle hard to maintain a long-term relationship and might be well advised to delay having children for several years until you are sure that the relationship will work out.

          If you are less than 50% compatible, this could be a sign not to rush into marriage.